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The Meek Shall Inherit The World.

One of the adages I really hate! It makes me think of all the losers who are frustrated with their lives, and who waste time “rationalizing” their situation rather than get their act together, decide what they want and get it! Remember – there will always be someone who will want you to stand in the corner and patiently wait for your turn. The thing is , your turn never comes, and the longer you wait, the harder it is to get out of that bloody corner!

So cut the crap out and tell me: “How much do you want to make?” One of my favourite questions! Is running a business just about money? I don’t know – you decide if it is ALL about money, but it is definitely ALSO about money, because if you don’t generate profit, you don’t actually have a business.

My clients come from more than ten countries, and it is interesting to see or hear that our culture has such a great influence on our relationship with our wallet. I come from Poland, where the entrepreneurial drive has had its various interpretations and faces over the last decades. You would be surprised how many people have a rather critical opinion of those who want to be financially successful.

We – Poles – must be among the most creative nations when it comes to coining words referring to people who have become financially successful.

Many of my  British clients drive me crazy with their “modesty”! I haven’t worked with many US Clients so far, but the ones I have worked with seemed to be the most comfortable talking about money, and they find it quite easy to talk about their financial aspirations. They also understand that if they offer a service that helps their clients solve a certain problem, or get them what they want, it is OK to expect the adequate remuneration for that. A lot of my clients develop business based on their passions and their willingness to help others, and consequently, some of them seem to have mixed feelings about helping and charging for that help.

Well, as this post is turning into a pseudo -sociological ramble/stereotype – labelling shit, let’s get to the point:

If you want to be successful, ALSO financially successful, steer clear of the debilitating voices and opinions – coming from people who typically have not achieved anything in life, and who will try to make you feel guilty about your aspirations – including your financial goals.

I remember some of the critical remarks I heard when I made it very clear that I wanted to have a prosperous business. “You’re turning into a workaholic”, “Watch out, or you may lose something much more important on your way!”. At some point, I just stopped listening to them, and I “fired” some of my “friends”!

If others want to live by some noble truths, like “The Meek Shall Inherit the World”, let them – they have their reasons, needs and visions. Nothing wrong with that. But don’t let them stop you from creating YOUR WORLD!

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So, What Is It That You REALLY REALLY want?

If you decide to be my Client, you’ll ask this question during our first session. The question seems very simple. Come on, everyone knows what they want! Is that true? In fact, this short question proves to be one of the most challenging ones for so many people! Why is that?

First, In many cultures, such questions are regarded as “selfish” or “inappropriate”. So many of us live to fulfill certain roles that we never discover what we want our lives to be about. It is always about meeting other people’s needs – your parents’, your partner’s, your boss’s, your children’s… For some strange reason, our societies condition us to make some of the key decisions: what is “right”, “responsible” or “mature”. From a very young age, we are moulded to “fit in”, and follow the linear sequence: school – studies – workDon’t get me wrong – I am not against certain social rules that create advanced democratic systems, in which we and other people can function harmoniously. I just hate the fact that we are so frequently discouraged from thinking what we WANT, and we’re expected to be satisfied with what we “SHOULD” or “OUGHT TO” do.

Second, we are expected to be “realistic”. Again and again, we hear: “Stop dreaming”, “You can’t do that”, “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”. So many times we hear that we are too old to dream and that we “should be serious”. People around us just can’t wait to offer their advice, and put us down by making us begin to self-doubt and undermine our confidence. Consequently, we either stop setting any goals, or aim really low, well below our REAL possibilities. From a very young age, we are moulded to “fit in”, and follow the linear sequence: school – studies – work

Third, we have never learned to set goals! They teach us so much useless stuff, which can be googled in three seconds, but they don’t tell us how to set goals, and that it is actually good to set goals. This skill doesn’t appear in any “standard” curriculum. Isn’t that ironic?

The good news is that we – entrepreneurs can achieve whatever we want and the sky really is the limit. The only limitation is your answer to the simple question: “What is it that you really really want?” and readiness to pay the price for achieving that.

So What Is It That YOU Really Really Want?